thoughts.

lol..these few days watching a lot of shows, and dunno why!! all talk about ex-marital affair of guys..some result in broken homes, some getting AIDS..some ending in hurts and sadness..

these shows led me to have lots of thinkings..about why such cases are always on the high nowadays. It seem to me as if eternal love for one another has become a thing of the past, and will eventually become habitual and...worse, boring.

what is it from the older generation that is lacking in newly married couples nowadays? that is leading to such high divorce cases around? as such i decided to list out some points..

-is it because women are more independent nowadays? and won't be so tolerable to their husbands outside affair, as compared to the past, where women just keep quiet?
-is it because nowadays, both husbands and wife have to work, and thus lack the most important thing: communication?
-is it because the egos of guys are too big to actually fail in front of the women they love, thus find consolation outside? or are we women not understanding enough?
-or do we have to boil all the problems down to behaviours of this generation as compared to the past?

this meaning, the more open and carefree thoughts nowadays. For example, my mum, who asks me not to hug john..lolS..or any guy, cos girls must "behave themselves"..=P lols!! okii thats really v extreme traditional thoughts la! hahah but i do see abit of truth and light in her words. (oops dearr don't sad when u read this! hee=P!)

butbut ya..i read a book that i borrowed from my cg leader, something about abstaining from sex, and the huge importance and consequences of it..and some of the reasons why girls must protect themselves and not anyhow give in..before reading it acutally i was almost convinced into thinking, well..that's what everyone after 20+ is doing, and the society is much more open now..but after reading the book..AHH!!! >.< 351 degrees change.

-first, imagine you are going to spend your whole life with ur partner, and had already done it since dunno what age. OMG!! sOOO boring doing the same thing for more than supposed years!! >.< (don't argue with me that marriage is not all about S**!!)
-2nd, i think it's really not fair leh!! all guys like to play play..but they want to marry a partner who's pure!!! >.< then they will just continue their journey to "the right one"..while the ex-es lose out!!
-3rd, no more le la but just that we will always lose out.!

haha..yupps...sO actually..real communication should exist during dating instead of emotional closeness which might replace the need to talk, and let you think that you are already very "close" to one another..

hhaha tRUEE HOR!!!and it also says something like..when a r'ship fails, it doesn't mean that it had totally failed. it shld be considered a successful courtship..where both had tried to understand each other..and give in their best to it. =)..maybe it just wasn't the right timing yet,or maybe the character don't fit ba, but of cos it's not because u like someone else la!! tt's inexcusable.

anyway back to what is missing from us-the new generation..i guess it's just the new culture, the lack of importance placed on supposedly "traditional" values, and many channels where guys(oki fine..or girls) can stray.

the book ended off advicing that, if the purpose of dating is not to marry, then it's better not to get into a r'ship so early.

hmmm sigh i think it's really very =S when a r'ship fails because of unfaithfulness. =((( even worse after marriage. prays that it will never happen to me or anyone close to me. i think though i am quite soft, hee i don't think i can tolerate/accept such things leh. hmm i will just break into 10000pieces. =(

Of course it's won't be easy for us girls, and guys, not to do the wrong thing,cos temptations will always be there, but yepps, try our best!+)

Quote from someone: "Marriage is actually a v beautiful thing, but it's also a v vunerable one, cos there is ALWAYS a possibility that one meets a more fresh, sexy, cool (everything ur partner is not) opposite sex, and when betrayal comes, it's never easy to restore back the trust that the victim have for the partner, which both once shared."